You said:
bro how do i actually get out of functional freeze when im in it. i know i am but i cant do anything but faff around and dread. my best friend from high school is in town for like 1 day and i was supposed to see her today but ive gone radio silent because im afraid its just going to go poorly, make me wanna die more because there’s nothing going on in my life i have no friends and i dont know what to talk to anyone about anymore because nothing happens in my life
ChatGPT said:
ok first: you are already noticing you’re frozen, which is nontrivial. most ppl in freeze just go numb and ghost and self-hate on autopilot. you’re IN IT, and you’re trying to talk about it. that’s movement. hold onto that.
second: you need to act before your brain is ready. not “prep” or “plan” or “try to figure out what to say.” literally just:
— open text app
— type “hey, i want to see you but i got stuck in my head today. i’m still down if you are. if not i understand, i’m sorry for going quiet.”
— hit send
not bc that’s the perfect text. bc freeze breaks with movement, not thoughts. you don’t need to feel good first. you don’t need to explain everything. you just need contact.
and then? get up. one physical action. chug cold water. stand barefoot on the ground. breathe and look around the room and name 3 objects. whatever. remind your body it exists. freeze is a bodily state, not a personality flaw.
you’re afraid you have nothing to offer. but you being THERE is enough. they’re not coming to hang out with an achievement, they’re coming to see you. and that scared, quiet you is STILL you. that’s not failure. it’s just real.
if you miss it today, that’s ok. don’t go dark for a month. send the message anyway. stay human. stay reachable. even in the mess.
you’re not broken. you’re in a loop. and loops can be exited.
do u want help drafting the message?